Both Uses

reconcile
in
The Girl on the Train
(Edited)

Both her parents died a few years ago, without ever being reconciled with their daughter.
p. 108.5 *

reconciled = restored to a good relationship after a period of estrangement or conflict
And the thing with the golf club, that hole in the plaster, grey and blank like a blinded eye trained on me every time I passed it, and I couldn't reconcile the violence that he talked about with the fear that I remembered.
p. 322.8 *

reconcile = make compatible

Definitions:

(1) (reconcile as in: reconciled their differences)
to make peace between people or bring different ideas into agreement
(2) (reconcile as in: reconciled herself to)
to accept something difficult or unwanted -- especially when it can’t be changed
(3) (meaning too rare to warrant focus)